August 16, 2010

For my straight White male friends re: Ramona Flowers (may contain spoilers for "Scott Pilgrim vs. The World")

(H/t: neo_prodigy, re: "What If Scott Pilgrim Wasn't A Straight White Male?")

Dear Straight White Guy Friend:

Are we friends? I mean friend-friends? Like we can be honest with each other about things?

That Ramona Flowers girl you keep ogling as soon as her scent is in the air? Can't stand her ass. I hate her guts. I hate her fashionably pale, barely legal-looking, wig-wearing, roller-blading, spiritual-but-not-religious ass. Seriously, whenever I get a whiff of her, I'm like this:



It's enough to make me forget I like women! And considering my taste in women, that's just wrong.

I hate Ramona Flowers for what she says to the rest of womankind. She says to us, "Don't take responsibility for your life. Cultivate worldly innocence and play muse to some random lowlife instead." She says to us, "Don't fight your own battles or use your own strength. Pretend to be helpless and get some pathetic slacker to do it for you." She says to us, "If you're cute and skinny and White enough, you won't have to do anything for yourself." She says to us, "Don't make choices and accept consequences! Wait around for the right people to pick you and feel like the victim for not getting the life you wanted." She says to us, "If you want to be loved, you must first and foremost be a fantasy. You are not allowed to be a complete and complex human being."

Simply put, she's a fake, a phony, a passing fancy. There's nothing real about her but the damage she does. I could almost respect her game if there was anything new in it, anything of substance that would make her appealing besides not being like your parents. I won't even say weird. Wednesday Addams is weird. The Ramonas of the world are merely quirky.

Speaking of damage, what kind of person has seven evil exes? I'm not going on that "What did she do to turn them evil?" nonsense. For real, what kind of person would choose to have a relationship with somebody evil who has superpowers? Not just once - seven fucking times!

Let's take the superpowers out of it. As a matter of fact, let's flip the script and make it your mom or your sister or some other woman you care about but don't want to sleep with. If she were seeing someone who had seven evil exes, wouldn't you be just a little bit concerned about her? Let's take this to the real world where instead of seven evil exes with superpowers, it could be seven evil exes with hardcore underworld connections. Would your assessment of the situation be different? I'm not saying you should judge people by who they used to date, but you should wonder about the company they keep, especially if said company will fucking kill you!

*sigh*

File this under Dumb Shit Guys Do They Wouldn't Let Their Mom or Sister Get Away With.

The next time you see Ramona Flowers, wipe the pixie dust out your eyes and take a good hard look at who you're with. You might not feel so enchanted when you realize the hell you'd be putting yourself through for something that's really not worth it.


Yours truly,

Me

P.S. For my feminist and womanist sisters, the next time you see Ramona Flowers, kick her in the cunt and beat her over the head with bell hooks until the words sink into her brain.



7 comments:

  1. Also.....

    Don't think I didn't catch the whole WOC being used and discarded for the magical white girl.

    I'm wondering how many people would be fans of Ramona and Scott if Knives had been white and treated in the same manner and Ramona was a WOC who Scott dumped her for.

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  2. "I'm not saying you should judge people by who they used to date, but you should wonder about the company they keep, especially if said company will fucking kill you!"

    THIS and the rest of this post. At some point during the fighting and the mysterious and aloof play you've got to stop and ask "really, is she worth it?"


    And the answer to that is no. What does Ramona actually bring to the table? She rollerblades - granted through people's heads, but still.

    "She says to us, 'Don't fight your own battles or use your own strength. Pretend to be helpless and get some pathetic slacker to do it for you.'"

    And this right here is the reason I could never respect her. She has the strength to fight, but just watches from the sidelines while men battle over her. This is so sickeningly archaic it makes me want to vomit corsets.

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  3. What does Ramona actually bring to the table? She rollerblades - granted through people's heads, but still.

    Exactly.

    And this right here is the reason I could never respect her. She has the strength to fight, but just watches from the sidelines while men battle over her. This is so sickeningly archaic it makes me want to vomit corsets.

    I just had to clean up chastity belts after I got done with that post.

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  5. @Josh:

    Thanks! And then I followed up with this.

    At any rate, I saved myself about $25 by not going to see "Eat, Pray, Love."

    Despite the serious Woman Issues with "Scott Pilgrim," I actually enjoyed it and didn't predict every moment from beginning to end. I don't think I can say the same for the newest flick being peddled to women (a demographic that, oddly enough, never seems to include women like me).

    Ditto "The Kids Are Alright." If a same-sex couple can live as though being a same-sex couple doesn't matter, they're either way outside my tax bracket or living in an alternate reality. And I prefer my fantasies to be truly fantastic. Like, with elves and dragons and shit.

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  6. Dude, yes. Exactly. Thank you for this. I so agree.

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