tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post6514894079958373544..comments2023-09-03T06:12:43.896-04:00Comments on Love's Labors Lost: on having That ConversationRVCBardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06481089855894764409noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-25822788786885892622011-05-26T09:35:32.107-04:002011-05-26T09:35:32.107-04:00A lot of this advice can be applied to conversatio...A lot of this advice can be applied to conversations about ANY hot button issues. Even in inter-personal relationshit conversations, we have to listen, understand and own what we are and be responsible for it.<br />Thanks for this post. Sharing it with those I know. Maybe it can help those having That Conversation (or some variety of Conversation) and maybe they can pass it on, too.RabbitCatalysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18171283508294621297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-8155531370765601642011-05-23T17:06:53.084-04:002011-05-23T17:06:53.084-04:00I stumbled over here from a link from someone on L...I stumbled over here from a link from someone on LiveJournal, and really appreciate the time and effort you've taken to compile these resources. <br /><br />I also, deeply, appreciate this:"If you're the White kid who went to a Black school and felt the brunt of the rage and pain of your peers, own it."<br /><br />I can and do own it, but/and don't recall ever seeing that kind of lived experience acknowledged in this way. As a childhood-onset PTSD survivor (not "just" because of my school experiences; far from it), I thank you from my heart. You've never met me but I feel heard by you.Dawn R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15668790429423131315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-9825449606658230032011-01-23T16:36:31.348-05:002011-01-23T16:36:31.348-05:00Thanks, everyone!
Feel free to add your own ideas...Thanks, everyone!<br /><br />Feel free to add your own ideas, too. I'm sure I can't think of them all!RVCBardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06481089855894764409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-70325046737901824102011-01-23T16:00:44.783-05:002011-01-23T16:00:44.783-05:00Awesome post. I found your blog recently and reall...Awesome post. I found your blog recently and really enjoy it.<br /><br />I really like your point here on "Racism 101". It is so exhausting (and often alienating on all sides) when a "Conversation" can't even get off the ground because non-white folks have to explain to white folks (or, those who choose not to educate themselves) that privilege exists.<br /><br />Again, great post. Looking forward to reading through the links.Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285596189486211512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-79086098198158878842011-01-22T18:31:23.878-05:002011-01-22T18:31:23.878-05:00I'm in the middle of reading your response on ...I'm in the middle of reading your response on the "More About Words" post about Huck Finn and I agree with you times infinity (and I know you've said it before--shit gets tiring). What's the phrase you use? "Must be mighty nice" to view exposure to a racial slur as an learning tool and not a psychological assault.<br /><br />P.S. I'm throwing my $.02 in over there now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-52149768717352508632011-01-22T12:47:50.028-05:002011-01-22T12:47:50.028-05:00I'll also suggest that when you get into That ...I'll also suggest that when you get into That Conversation it helps when you define terms. It's been my experience that when two people are using the term "racism" with differing definitions the conversation goes wrong very quickly. (I tend to use the small "r", capital "R" distinction in my head, but it works best when I actually remember to tell people that the former is about skin color and the latter is about societal and historical oppression/disadvantage.)<br /><br />I'm also bookmarking, and looking forward to carefully reading through your links!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-20760841629714752172011-01-22T11:33:14.562-05:002011-01-22T11:33:14.562-05:00Bookmarking. Thanks for a thoughtful post and rele...Bookmarking. Thanks for a thoughtful post and relevant links.Zarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14297967580799128420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-91980443264774914232011-01-21T11:08:28.984-05:002011-01-21T11:08:28.984-05:00Because the ones who do make a good faith effort t...<i>Because the ones who do make a good faith effort to understand aren't the ones who are constantly fucking up or making with the textbook fail.</i><br /><br />Just for the sake of clarity, would you mind expanding on your idea of a good faith effort vs. fucking it up?RVCBardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06481089855894764409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4568548679414256493.post-23559381797849859552011-01-21T10:26:09.310-05:002011-01-21T10:26:09.310-05:00I think the biggest issue is that people genuinely...I think the biggest issue is that people genuinely don't want to know and grow and learn. <br /><br />They talk a good game but if it's anything that requires them to step out of their comfort zone, they aren't having it.<br /><br />Because the ones who do make a good faith effort to understand aren't the ones who are constantly fucking up or making with the textbook fail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com